There’s no point thinking that you can have the good and avoid the bad. I’m both.
I’m the epitome of madonna-whore. I love to fuck you, but I don’t love to fuck only you. I’ll throw myself into your arms, but then, there I am… in your arms when you least want me there. I’ll give you as much space as you need… and then I’ll give you more distance than you can bear. My smile will light up your world, and then it will become a smirk. I am wit, and I am sarcasm. I am compassion, and I am pathos. You’ll love my intelligence; you’ll hate my arrogance. My words will caress, then they’ll bite. When I turn my back on you, you won’t know whether I’m giving you my ass, or walking away from you. I’m manic energy; I’m desolation.
This is what I’m like… I’m your angel with the wantonly spread legs. I’m your dulcet-toned seductress who will fuck you raw. I can do elegance, with ease; I am the wild slut of your fantasies. I have confidence galore; I’m insecure and clingy. I’ll whisper sweet nothings into your ear while we cuddle, and then I’ll scream profanities while I ride you to exhaustion. I’ll worship your cock one minute, and demand its obedience the next. I’ll beg you to hurt my body, and cry when you hurt my feelings. I’m strong, I’m fragile. I’m logical, I’m out of control. I want you; I need to be far, far away from you. I love you; I resent your importance to me.
If you want me — do you want me? If you want me, you’ll get what you want, probably, and much more… and the more won’t necessarily be pretty. In fact, for every beautiful moment, for every hot fuck we share, there will be a pout, a snarl, or a glare. For every perfect curve, there will be an ugly bulge.
Can you handle it? Can you handle me? Do you want to? Do I want you to? If you figure it out, if you figure me out, let me know. K?



I’m actually tearing up a bit reading this. I won’t fawn, or rather I’ll try not to, but I absolutely love your writing. The best compliment that I can give you is that I’m envious that you seem to be able to say the things that I feel but can’t quite put into words. That and that I wish you lived next door to me.
Sincerely, there is not one word of that that doesn’t completely describe what it feels like to want to hand yourself over…and yet to not want to want it, all at the same miserable/wonderful time.
By: Lakey on June 26, 2008
at 7:34 pm
Really, your whole life is all about finding different ways to make men say “yes,” isn’t it?
By: Semyon on June 26, 2008
at 11:09 pm
Very interesting., the Paradox of Indiscretion. I think a lot of people who are in the situation you are feel the same way. It’s like a love/hate thing. Very good writing
By: SP on June 27, 2008
at 4:10 am
God that’s fantastically written.
By: Kyra on June 27, 2008
at 6:35 pm
Lakey — You’re a true doll. Living next door to each other would be far too much fun for us. And yes… I’m having a rather miserable/wonderful time of things, myself. That peak of pleasure seems to come only as a package with more pain that you think you can bear.
Semyon — Well, obviously. Although, you really don’t say no to me well, I find. You’re easy — just the way I like you.
SP — Thank you so much. I agree… not a unique situation in the least.
Kyra — Really? That’s very flattering… I thank you sincerely.
By: Marianne on June 27, 2008
at 8:24 pm
I have to admit Marianne, this post resonated with how I view myself, and every little beautiful flaw anyone has ever uncovered on the way.
It’s almost like a “Caveat Emptor”…
By: naughtysecretary on June 27, 2008
at 8:45 pm
N.S. — I couldn’t agree more. And sometimes, I just want to present that caveat upfront, rather than waiting for discovery — I want to say, “Yeah, I look like a pretty great deal, certainly… but wait… here’s some stuff you should know”. Masochist, I think.
By: Marianne on June 28, 2008
at 9:24 am
If we can pass off our neurosis as “just keeping them on their toes” then more power to us. We’re women, we can’t help being fickle.
XX
By: A. Secret on June 28, 2008
at 12:08 pm
We are what we are. A conundrum wrapped up in an enigma, etc, etc. But dont men find the most paradoxical women, the most challenging… and therefore also the most rewarding.
By: havingmycake on June 29, 2008
at 6:03 am
A.S. — I think ‘fickle’ is a lovely word for it. I’m going with it.
Cake — Well, that’s my theory… I’m worth all the trouble. I hope.
By: Marianne on June 29, 2008
at 7:49 pm
Women!
I have yet to figure you out. But what a wonderful adventure it is to try.
Very well written Marianne, I do love the way to seem to describe the futility of male efforts to figure it out.
By: Chexmate on June 30, 2008
at 9:50 pm
Chex — Men! Likewise! And yes, it’s a wonderful adventure, indeed.
By: Marianne on July 1, 2008
at 12:23 pm
a friend sent me a link to your site yesterday and i feel compelled to comment on this particular post. there is no way that i can convey nearly as eloquently as you did some of the very same feelings that grip me. perfect post.
becky
By: hello haha narf on August 29, 2008
at 6:02 am
Hey Becky — I’m really glad you could identify. That’s very gratifying.
By: Marianne on September 4, 2008
at 8:04 pm